Musings from Behind the Board
I’ll be honest, this isn’t a question that I’ve been asked very often; that said, when it has been asked, there’s only one response that I believe is appropriate: This is YOUR wedding; YOU get to make the rules. If you want to honor your Mom by dancing with her, let’s put our heads together so that we can give that moment the attention and the care that it deserves.
Do you find that you and your spouse-to-be are having this very concern while you’re trying to plan your reception? Have the two of you sat and wondered just how you’re going to pull this off while keeping your guests from saying that the music at your event sucked? Trust me when I say that you aren’t alone.
1. If the answer is “no”, this is VERY important information for your DJ. They will need to set up at least two sound systems; one dedicated for the reception and one for the ceremony. Extra time will also need to be factored in to get to and from the ceremony site, so timing is KEY. Needless to say, this is going to greatly increase the amount of labor that they’re putting into serving you, your spouse-to-be and your guests.
For those of you rolling your eyes right now, stop and hear me out. One song, 2 to 5 minutes long (I know, 5 minutes might be a bit much; discuss ways to shorten it with your DJ, who’ll be more than happy to help you out). If nothing else, think of the brownie points that you may win with Mom. You took the time to think of her on YOUR wedding day. Every time she looks at pictures (and trust me, there will be PLENTY), she’s going to think about that moment in time. She’ll be reminded of bringing you into the world; the first time you said “Mama”; your first steps… She will literally have her own version of “This Is YOUR Life” going through her mind. It’s a simple gesture, really; one that will have a far broader impact than you expect.